By Eric Spitznagel. January 11, pm Updated January 14, pm. Mason, a former college football player from suburban Milwaukee, was almost 20 years old when he lost his virginity. For Mason, the simple act of kissing was something he largely avoided in high school, afraid that without enough experience he would do it wrong. When he went to college he met a girl, Jeannie, who invited him back to her dorm room to fool around. Over the span of two years, Orenstein spoke to hundreds of boys across the United States, ranging in age from their early teens to mids and spanning all races, socioeconomic backgrounds, religious beliefs and even sexual orientations. According to the latest data by the General Social Survey, men between the ages of 18 and 29 are having less sex than ever; the number of abstinent men has nearly tripled in the last decade, from 10 percent in to 28 percent last year. This paralyzing fear of sexual inadequacy begins for many boys with online pornography. They made it seem so convincing.
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By Louisa Peacock , Deputy women's editor. Research by Professor Emma Renold at Cardiff University, in collaboration with the NSPCC, has highlighted the pressure to turn a close boy-girl friendship into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship from a young age, because of the stigma attached to girls and boys sharing the same interests. During a qualitative study involving interviews with children aged 10, 11 and 12, one boy admitted that he had to pretend his best friend Alice was a cousin for an entire school year, so that they could hang out free from "heterosexual teasing". One boy talked about how his primary school 'girlfriend' of five years helped him cope with the death of his father. But, says Prof Renold, the children largely talked about boyfriend-girlfriend cultures as something they had little choice about particpating in. The eight types of friends all women need. High heels for girls are sexualising children, parenting groups warn. One boy admitted it was a "virtual rule" that "if you had a girlfriend you were marked out as cool, if you didn't you were a chav". The study, carried out to understand how pre-teens feel about growing up in an increasingly sexualised society, also paints an alternative picture for how young boys and girls are responding to the bombardment of sexual imagery on TV and in music videos.
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Strictly speaking, of course, even indifference is a feeling, but I knew what they meant: They wanted to know if they could have sex without caring: devoid of vulnerability, even with disregard for a partner. I thought about those boys this week as I watched Harvey Weinstein, in an Oscar-worthy performance of abject harmlessness, hobble on his walker into the New York Supreme Court in Manhattan. The MeToo movement has exposed sexual misconduct, coercion and harassment across every sector of society. Weinstein ends up with fingers crossed the longest prison sentence in history. To make real change we need to tackle something larger and more systemic: the pervasive culture that urges boys toward disrespect and detachment in their intimate encounters. I never intended to write about boys. But four years ago, after publishing a book about the contradictions young women still face in their intimate encounters, I realized, perhaps inevitably, that if I truly wanted to promote safer, more enjoyable, more egalitarian sexual relationships among young people, I needed to have the other half of the conversation.
They caught him after he had killed the second man. The law would never connect him to the first murder. It was almost as if, at least on the books the law kept, Caesar had got away with a free killing.
